Brad P, who’s been putting up some great posts lately, has a new one about building a tolerance to beauty. I’ve found that what he says rings true — the only way to remove beautiful women from their pedestal is to be around them all the time. Once you’re doing that, you can finally realize that they’re normal people just like you and me.
Seeing a beautiful woman can be an intoxicating experience. There is a strong physiological response to this and it’s compounded by our social programming. It’s almost like feeling the effects of 4 beers all at once.
Think back to when you were young and the hot chick walked into the classroom at school. I don’t know about you, but it used to make my head spin. Do you know what I’m talking about now?
For those who have not built up a tolerance to beautiful women, you will be very REACTIVE to them. If you are too reactive, she will not be able to view you as an equal. You can forget being viewed as a dominant/superior person. Being viewed as dominant and superior is necessary for attraction.
Being REACTIVE sabotages your chances of succeeding with beautiful women.
Now you’ve read it on ASF. You believe it. It must be true.
Guess what? That’s not gonna help you at all. Reading these words on ASF does not give you one iota of extra courage in the moment.
It’s like if I told you “Don’t let the 4 beers affect you.” There’s not a damn thing I can tell you that’s gonna reduce the effect of those 4 beers.
What’s gonna help? Building a tolerance.
Just as you can build a tolerance to alcohol, you can build a tolerance to beautiful women. You can reduce your level of reactiveness to physical beauty by being exposed to it over and over.
You must spend time around beautiful women in a relaxed state. This can take place in a peer group, in your job, etc. You don’t need to be sarging them, some of them can just be your friends.
When you spend a lot of time around beautiful women, or if you find some other way to reduce your reactiveness, you become a guy who women percieve as pre-selected for success with women. They can TELL you’re not reactive, and that’s very interesting to them because they don’t want people treating them weird all the time. Sometimes they just want to be treated normally like anyone else.
There’s a thread in general about telling hot girls they’re ugly as an opener in order to resist the temptation to put them on a pedestal. To me that’s just as reactive as being a supplicating AFC.
There’s this certain line of logic I often see that says “if you have a problem, just do the complete opposite, then find the happy medium and your problem will be solved.” This thinking is often applied to seduction. I think most of the time it completely misses the boat.
In this case doing the opposite gives you an equal amount of reactiveness plus it adds in negativity and utter social retardedness.
Just be around hot women frequently and you’ll start to see they’re not a big deal. They have faults and issues and bad hair days just like anyone else.
Brad P.
Nice Post.
I learned, that gaming a 8 is completely different than gaming a 6 .. an 8 is chased and hitted all the time, the can reject you without any worries. Someone other will came and hit on her.
A 6 is easier to game ..this is why i was not being able to lay a 8 in my life.
I think its also related to what Brad P say, i react to heavy on those beautiful Girls, and give SOI too early.
greetz from germany
Dude, your blog is amazing. By far the best blog in the community.
Thundercat’s blog is dead now, so it looks like the Sex Revolution Blog is going to be where it’s at in the community blogosphere.
True, I’ve done this myself. It’s on the dot. But… it doesn’t mean that looking at women and they’re naughty parts is absolutely wrong and will always screw up your chances.
What this dude is referring to is:
Your talking to a girl, and your nervous. Your affraid you might do something wrong and something bad will happen. At the same time your intoxicated by this hot girls D-cup chest, long tight legs and that bulging ass. And you just can’t help but quickly peek at them once in a while, hoping that she isn’t noticing.
No, no, no. Truth is you know she is notcing it, your just to messed up to rationalize this and control yourself. You really don’t care, you just wanna check out her fine body (cause that’s all she’s got going for her anyways;)) Combine this with your messed up state, and the girl is going to act stupid.
It’s completely different though when your state is topnotch. Good bodylanguage, calm and relaxed appearance (even if your really nervous as shit). The girl will react totally different in this case. She might actually like it or be flattered that your checking her out. But your chances of her responding good right now are still low… unless….
One thing that also works against you like the bad bodylanguage, nervous attitude etcetera, is that your trying to hide the fact that your checking her out. Most women don’t like this, some think (or rather act like) it’s creepy (wich is stupid, and just a way of making you feel (even more) uncomfortable). Some take it as a sign of weakness or insecurity (even if your bodylanguage and everything else is good. She’ll probably be thinking she’s basass because you can’t keep your eyes of her. All the while thinking your pathetic.
So how do we make this perfect? Simple, make it obvious that your checking her out. Make sure, that she knows your checking her out. And, make it obvious and clear, that you know that she knows that your checking her out. Now, the whole thing gets turned around and your the badass and she feels uncomfortable because she’s insecure.
Look, or even stare longer then your “supposed” to. Then look her straight in the eyes and give her a modest and sly smile. Check her out from bottem to top, legs to boobs and everyhting in between, look her straight in the eyes, and give her a light smile. Bad boy style.
One of the best ways to get a horny brat attracted to you, is by not giving a shit what she thinks about you right? Well this is excactly what your conveying by taking your time looking at her jilted parts, and showing her that you know she knows your doing it.
Doing just this sets of a lot of emotions inside her. These will make things much easier for you. My personal favourite is that she feels threatenend by you, because she knows that you don’t mess around (this is what happens most of the time seeïng how women aren’t really that strong, they just act like it. Women don’t just make things difficult for us, we also make things easier for them, we give them to much leaway).
She will feel she can’t handle you. That your to much man for her. At the same time she is hopelessly attracted to you. These two facts make it EASY for you to dominate her. It enables you to say and do just about anything you want.
This includes touching her in all the “good” places;)
The thigh and hip are the easiest, followed by the ass wich is also low risk. Boobs can be a bit tricky in certain situations, and you can usually only just touch’em real quick. The pussy is about the same as the boobs, but for a different reason. With the boobs, it’s because it can be really obvious. Seeïng as how you have to lift your arm up towards her etc. That’s why it’s usually a quicky. With the pussy it’s more because of ASD and shit.
(LOL… ASD)
All of the above become easier the closer your standing to her. Because it becomes less obvious, and more secret;) Personally I like the ass because it always works and because it just feels so good(H);)
Man that is an awesome post! When you spend time around beautiful women, the looks part of the equation isn’t as important. “Sometimes they just want to be treated normally like anyone else.” - Its totally true.
Beautiful women want guys to like them for whats on the inside, who they are deep down. If you fall in love with the outside, they just brush you off, since You are the superficial one. If the outside doesn’t matter to you, then they can trust you.
Not to mention treating them normal allows for many more teasing opportunities and ball busting.