BG, over at Lifestyle with BG, is one of my favorite seduction bloggers out there. In addition to having PU skills, his posts also give the vibe that he’s a happy and positive person. And, I think that’s a critically important fact that we lose sight of all too often in the community: if we’re not happy with what we’re doing, there is no point in doing it. Once you’ve improved your game a lot, you’ll find that you have much more power with women. Don’t use this power abusively, as that will neither make you happy nor do anything to maintain your power. Use it with care, and remember that your leadership should benefit your followers more than it benefits you.

Here’s a post by BG on the topic:

Time for some ranting.The community has taught me how to be an assertive leader, mostly I learnt how to lead MYSELF, but also how to lead others (the key is knowing how to lead yourself, basically). The most important thing about leading though, is leading the life you want. I see an alpha male as a conscious and aware person (regarding social psychology, business, nutrition, spirituality, politics, arts, etc.) who’s confident and who believes in abundance.

The best lesson I learnt from David DeAngelo is what he says about scarcity. I see a lot of unhappy people being motivated by scarcity. I do not believe scarcity exists; it’s subjective. Scarcity’s an expression of materialism. Materialism is, in my eyes, a common mistake we all make. We look in the mirror and see ourselves; but your body is not YOU. Your name is not YOU.

Several years ago, I started telling friends not to give me birthday presents; it disgusted me. I saw the birthday present tradition as a way to join materialism up with something deeper; soul friendship. And somehow, whether you did or did not give a present, has an influence in some social circles. Fuck that shit.

I was reading a book by A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada, one of the most influential people in the Krishna faith, and it made me understand why the Bible defines lust as sin. We identify with our bodies, and we identify others with theirs; but your body’s pure material. Lust is the emotion of wanting to have your body interact with another; fooling yourself that you want to interact with the other soul. I believe all material wealth is temporary, and I seek for more.

Human relationships are so important to me; every person is an infinite source of wisdom. A lot of people in the community say that all women are manipulative by nature; let’s just say I’m willing to accept that (though I disagree). Aren’t we MORE than just nature? Do you truly believe in Mystery’s concept that EVERY action of yours is motivated by survival and replication? I don’t.

So basically they see all women as being manipulative and dangerous; surely this is a view that comes from a negative past dealing with women. It leads guru’s like David DeAngelo to say that a 50-50 relationship is a relationship controlled by her… GUYS! Women are not the enemy! David DeAngelo is JUST a guy, speaking his opinion. Why the fuck is it professed in the community that you need to control EVERYTHING about an LTR? Does that make you happy in the long run? I basically believe it’s over-compensation. Revenge of the nerds, so to speak. Never had power, now they know how power works and they become control freaks. Again, outcome dependent, but rationalizing they’re not outcome dependent because they can “just go out and get a new girl anyway”. Then WHY EXACTLY are you SO concerned with being in FULL control??

That does not seem ‘alpha’ to me, as defined earlier. I think it’s the materialistic nature of man that causes it. Note that I said nature; it’s in our nature, but I think we’re more than just this organism. Women manipulate because they’re scared to lose you, this is caused by the subjective experience of scarcity, a materialistic principle. Men suffer from this same experience, from the same materialism. So why use this to try to have power over each other? We’re all suffering from it.

If you want to be happy, try to avoid materialistic judgment in your own mind, and do not get into a relationship with someone who is very materialistic (you too girls). A man who’s not materialistic will not try to overpower you, but will appreciate you. A girl who’s not materialistic will not try to manipulate you, but will appreciate sharing this moment in time with you. Everything’s temporary.

The non-materialistic alpha male is different from AFC’s in the sense that he’s happy and powerful, but has enough personal power not to use this power for material gain. An AFC has no power and is frustrated with it… and the way I see most PUA’s, they have power and let these old frustrations control them.

I’m done ranting now. Have a nice day.