QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hi Dan,

I absolutely loved the book. I bought the book before I had sex for the first time, just so that I would know what I was doing when my first time came. I lost my virginity about three months ago, and I’m definitely glad that I knew how sex worked before I did. My first time wasn’t amazing, but compared to some of the horror stories I’ve heard, I did pretty well.

I’m still with the girl I lost my virginity to, and I’ve made a ton of improvements since my first time. I can last as long as I want to, don’t have any erection problems, and I’m starting to work in dirty and emotional talk. Sex is awesome for me now…and the best part is, I know that if I keep improving my skills, it’ll just keep becoming better and better.

My question is: do you have any physical techniques that you use to increase your stamina? Your “relaxation over arousal” mantra has worked great for me on the psychological side — I was just wondering if there was anything extra I should be doing physically to improve my stamina even more.

Thanks a ton, and keep up the great work. I signed up for the New York Sexual Confidence Bootcamp, and I’m psyched to learn from you live and in person.

Lee

MY RESPONSE:

Thanks for the question, and the success story. It’s actually fairly common for guys to buy the book before they start getting a lot of sexual experience. This way, like Lee, they know what they’re doing so they don’t blow it when they finally get in bed with a girl. Then they get the chance to get more sexual experience, where they can apply their knowledge more, and get even better in bed.

And, I bet it feels good, doesn’t it? To never have to bumble through years of being the “clueless inexperienced guy,” but instead to get on the fast track to being a Sex God RIGHT AWAY.

If you want this kind of success, you should check out my book The Sex God Method. By learning my four-step method to giving women orgasms, you’ll be taking a giant leap towards Sexual Confidence and a great sex life.

And if you’re really serious about getting these problems handled, check out The Sexual Confidence Bootcamp. It’s a one-day, intense, interactive workshop where Sexual Confidence is drilled into you through exercises I personally developed. It’s an incredibly powerful experience, one which is very effective in getting this part of your life HANDLED for good.

The New York Bootcamp is sold out, but you can still reserve a seat at the Boston program. It’s being offered a a deep discount of $300 — after this, all Bootcamps will cost $1000.

The Sexual Confidence Bootcamp 

Now, on to your question:

The main way to improve your stamina is to improve your Immersion. See this issue of my newsletter (How To Improve Sexual Stamina and Erection Quality) for more details on this. However, there are some physical techniques that you can use to help you out.

I almost hesitate to share these techniques with guys, because your main focus if you want to improve your stamina should always be psychological. A guy who has great Immersion, but doesn’t know any of these techniques will still have great stamina, but a guy who has no Immersion but does everything perfect physically will still have no stamina. However, these physical techniques can help — IF you already have the psychological stuff down.

If you are having sex with condoms, I recommend that you have two thicknesses of condoms available at all times. This is so that you can use the thicker condom when you want to last longer, and the thinner condom when you want to cum faster.

Personally, I use Durex Her Sensation as my thick condom, and Durex Ultra Thin as my thin condom. Everyone’s body is different though — try out every condom brand, and figure out which one is best for you.

Be fairly aggressive with changing condoms too — I’ll usually change condoms 3-5 times over 45 minutes. This won’t disrupt her Immersion — you can finger her, give her oral sex, etc. while you change condoms. Just make sure to have the condoms and lubricant within arms reach so that you don’t have to go hunting for them.

The exception to this is when you’re trying to put your girl in the Continuously Orgasmic State. As those of you who’ve read my book know, this is the ultimate sign of sexual mastery, when you can make a girl cum so many times that her orgasms blend together into one long, Continuously Orgasmic State. I explain how to do this in The Sex God Method — it’s really incredible experience, when you can put a girl in a deliriously aroused state for upwards of half an hour.

If you are trying to do this, then you need continuous physical stimulation to keep her highly aroused. In this case, you should not change condoms or disrupt the flow of stimulation in any way, unless you absolutely have to.

Now — you can use thick and thin condoms to control your stamina, but you should also be using lubrication to help with this. If you want to cum faster, use more lubrication on the outside of the condom, and on the head of your cock before you put the condom on.

I find that lubricating the head of your cock before you put the condom on makes sex much more pleasurable — you get a lubricated glide, instead of a latex burn. Just make sure not to lubricate near the base of your cock though, or the condom may slide off.

If you want to last longer, use less lubricant on your cock before you put in on, and on the outside of the condom.

Thicker, gel-type lubricants are better for sex with condoms. While I’ll use Astroglide liquid for condomless sex, for sex with condoms I prefer lubricants like KY Warming Jelly. This is because you won’t get the benefit of your girl’s wetness on the inside of the condom, so you’ll need something thicker that’ll last longer.

So — use a thicker condom with less lubricant if you want to extend your stamina. Use a thinner condom with more lubricant if you want to cum faster, or if you want to prevent erection problems.

And again, these physical techniques are only a supplement to psychological Immersion, which is the main thing that will increase your stamina. Check out this issue of my newsletter for some tips on increasing your stamina by improving your Immersion:

How To Improve Stamina And Erection Quality