One thing that continually surprises me about guys I meet who want to improve their social and sex lives are the amount that want to “do it themselves.” There are many, many guys out there who actually don’t want to learn social and sexual skills from anyone else. Rather, they want to “figure stuff out on their own” and “do it their way.”

This strikes me as an absolutely brain-dead way of learning social skills, sexual skills, or any skill for that matter.

Why is this? To learn a skill on your own, it takes a tremendous amount of work. Plus, you have to be either a genius or incredibly talented. To learn a skills from a teacher, all you have to have is an ability to learn and the willingness to put a reasonable amount of effort into learning.

For example, suppose you tried to “do it yourself” and learn Calculus on your own. This would be incredibly hard — Isaac Newton was a genius, and it took him many years to discover basic Calculus principles. If you slaved over it your entire life, it is doubtful that the average person would ever get as far as he did.

However, you don’t have to be a genius to learn Calculus if you have a teacher. If you have a good teacher, all it takes is a willingness to learn and a few months to devote to the topic.

Now, social and sexual skills are far from Calculus — but learning them works in the same way. To discover how to do these things on your own, it takes many years and a tremendous amount of effort. However, if you learn from a mentor or teacher, it takes much less time and effort to learn the same amount.

I recognized this myself when I was first learning social skills, which is why I sought out mentors. Mentors such as Vin DiCarlo were tremendously instrumental in my rise to social success, and I doubt I could have done it without them.

When I was learning sexual skills, I also tried to seek out teachers. There was nobody that I could learn from live at the time — so I sought out knowledge in the form of books and other informational products. Unfortunately, everything I tried was absolutely terrible. Although I would have greatly preferred to have learned sexual skills from a teacher, there were none out there that I could learn from

This is why I created the Sex God Method. It would have been much easier and faster to have learned from someone else — it took me years and years on continuous experimentation, analysis and tweaking before I came up with it. It is also why I wrote it all up in the Sex God Method – so that guys don’t have to duplicate all my hard work, and can learn sexual skills much faster. So: If you’re learning a skill, don’t try to reinvent the wheel and “do it yourself.” A much more effective way of learning is to get a mentor or teacher to instruct you, so that you can benefit from their knowledge. You’ll learn much faster, and much better.