QUESTION:

Originally posted on mASF

So I finally lost my virginity 2 days ago and my biggest fear came true. I’m too small to pleasure a girl with my dick alone. I compensate this by being magical with my hands (she commented on how she was my favorite fuck by far) but I still want to pleasure her with just my dick. How small am I? I’m a little short of 5 inches which is fine (although an extra inch wouldn’t hurt anyone) but my girth is way too small. I can barely keep a Trojan on. For reference, I can probably fit my penis in a toilet tube and still leave quarter an inch all around. I am just short of three fingers wide.

This is very problematic because I don’t feel her vagina wrapping around my cock (maybe it’s the condom)?

I’m thinking of picking up jelquing and rigorously work on it but how much increase in length and girth can I really expect here? Are there any alternatives besides surgery?

MY RESPONSE:

OK, so I’m not going to give you the whole motivational speech about how penis size doesn’t matter. The truth is, penis size DOES matter — just not nearly as much as most guys think. And, if you have SEXUAL SKILLS, then you’ll be able to give women orgasms no matter how big your penis is.

But, I recognize that it can take time to develop these sexual skills, and you’re looking for a fast solution to your problem. So, here are five easy things that you can do to give women incredible orgasms — even if you have a small penis.

1. Learn the sexual positions that are BETTER for guys with small cocks

I’m not exactly hung like an elephant myself, so one of the first things I looked for when I was trying to become good in bed were positions which worked better with a smaller penis. And it wasn’t easy, but lucky for you, I discovered a few:

• Put her legs over your shoulders and thrust into her at a shallow angle (g-spot sex). Using this position, you’re directing stimulating her g-spot and can penetrate her surprisingly deeply because of the angle. With a larger cock, this position doesn’t work as well because the guy will tend to bottom out and painfully bump against the girl’s cervix. But with a smaller cock, you’ll fill her perfectly in this position and will give her a lot of g-spot stimulation
• Hold one of her legs up in the air, and thrust into her at an angle. Or, you can hold behind both her knees with your hands, and lift her up in the air slightly as you sit straight up and thrust into her. Same principle as above…the angle shortens her vagina and allows you to penetrate her more deeply. You’re also giving her a lot of g-spot stimulation at the same time

If you’re below average in size and you’ve never tried these positions, you really don’t know what you’ve been missing out on. You’ll be able to give women incredible g-spot orgasms, and you won’t have to worry about the buzz kill of “bottoming out” like larger guys will.

2. Give her orgasms through foreplay before sex even starts

As a great martial artist once said, the fight is half over before it begins.

Meaning, if you can give her an orgasms BEFORE you even start fucking her, giving her more orgasms through intercourse becomes many, many times easier. Not only does it physically make her more likely to cum during sex, but it also helps your confidence and will allow you to last longer and to feel less pressure while you’re having sex.

Check out some of the other posts on the blog where I talk about oral sex, fingering, kissing, and other types of foreplay. Here are some posts for starters:

• Oral Sex Tips: How To Give A Woman Oral Sex
• What Is The Right Amount Of Foreplay?
• How To Create An Unforgettable Sexual Experience
  

3. Get your confidence back by getting an arsenal of powerful sexual skills

Now, the real long-term solution to your problem is an internal, “inner-game” type solution. Meaning, MOST OF THIS PROBLEM IS IN YOUR HEAD.

Here’s what’s happening:

You don’t believe your penis is big enough to please a woman. So, you feel inadequate and unable to please her in bed…needless to say, a woman doesn’t find this lack of confidence attractive. So, she doesn’t really enjoy having sex with you.

Because the sex wasn’t good, you take this as more evidence that your cock isn’t big enough. So you get even LESS confident, and the sex gets even worse. This causes you to lose MORE confidence, etc. until you’re firmly convinced your dick (which in reality is just slightly below average) is totally inadequate and useless.

What you need to do is to BREAK THIS DESTRUCTIVE AND VICIOUS CYCLE. If you don’t, then you’re probably looking at a sex life where you’re constantly feeling inadequate and unable to please women. You probably won’t ever be able to give women orgasms through intercourse with this lack of confidence, and you’ll never be able to having the mind-blowing, break-the-bed sex of your fantasies.

If this doesn’t motivate you to take action, I don’t know what will

Now, I recognize that it’s not just as simple as saying “be confident,” and your entire belief system will instantly be changed. I wish there was some type of magic spell that I could cast on you to instantly give you +30 confidence, but unfortunately there isn’t.

But what WILL make the difference for you — very quickly — is learning an arsenal of powerful sexual skills. Once you REALLY know what you’re doing in the bedroom, things like this tend not to affect you so much anymore. After all, if you know secrets about sex almost NOBODY else knows…you have a huge edge on every other guy, and something like being half an inch smaller than average isn’t really a big deal anymore.

This is what made the BIG difference for me when I was learning this stuff. Of course the surface level techniques helped, but it was the knowledge that I had about 100x more sexual SKILLS than the average guy that truly made the difference.

Now for me, this was a process of YEARS to get to this point. But for you, it can be a matter of HOURS or even MINUTES.

Because I’ve taken all the bedroom breakthroughs it took me YEARS to discover…and condensed them into a 268 page e-book which lays out my entire method for giving women orgasms. Just by reading a few chapters of the book, you’ll discover secrets of giving women pleasure most guys never learn. This will be the “secret weapon” that gives you the edge of confidence you need to overcome this issue.

And of course, I’m not the only game in town. I hope you pick up my stuff, but I also highly encourage you to seek out other sex teachers, and absorb everything they have to teach you.

If you’d like to pick up your copy of “The Sex God Method” and get that edge of confidence you need to overcome any issues of penis size, click the link below for more information:

The Sex God Method

Until next time,

-Dan