Pretty much every guy knows that he SHOULD be talking dirty to his girl in bed, that it is exciting for her. He knows that he should be spanking her, manhandling her, giving her the male Dominance that every woman craves.
HOWEVER…there is a big difference between KNOWING IT, and ACTUALLY DOING IT.
Deep down, all of us have a fear of talking dirty or dominating a woman. The fear that she’ll get offended. The fear that we’ll get nervous and sound like an idiot. The fear of sexual rejection.
As much as we don’t want to admit it, this fear is POWERFUL. If left unchecked, it can preclude a lot of your sexual excitement and ruin your sex life.
So, how can we conquer this fear of Dominance, and start having better sex?
There are four main ways to overcome this fear that I discuss in The Sexual Confidence Bootcamp. One of these ways is to know exactly what types of dirty talk and Dominance WILL offend a woman, and turn her off.
Don’t get me wrong — dirty talk done the right way will be tremendously exciting for a woman. But if you do it the wrong way, it can be a turn off.
It’s like if you have to run through a field in the fastest time possible. Obviously, you want to just START confidently and run through without hesitation.
But, what if there were a few land mines hidden in the field that you didn’t know about? You’d probably run MUCH slower, because you’d be terrified about setting off one of the hidden land mines.
Knowing what dirty talk turns a woman off is like knowing where these land mines are. You can be confident that you’re steering way clear of them, and thus your worry and anxiety will be reduced tremendously.
There are FIVE of these types of dirty talk and Dominance that turn a woman off.
The first is dirty talk or Dominance that is ABUSIVE. It is VERY, VERY rare that any guy does this to a woman, but it is important to know nonetheless.
Remember, the purpose of dirty talk is not to degrade or insult that woman. It is to arouse her with Dominance.
For example, “You’re MY dirty little slut,” said when said while holding a woman in your arms in looking deep into her eyes is Dominant, and will arouse her.
“You’re a stupid bitch,” is neither Dominant nor arousing. It’s merely annoying and insulting.
Of course, this is an extreme example, but you get the idea. If you start making your dirty talk abusive, women will SHUT DOWN any arousal that they feel with you. Not just when you are abusive, but all the time. Not to mention, it’s also morally fucked up.
If you are talking dirty to her in order to AROUSE her, and not ABUSE her, however, you won’t run into any trouble with this.
I’ll talk about two more of the ways that you can screw up and actually turn off a woman with Dominance in:
How Dominance Can Be A TURN OFF In Bed — Part II
In the meantime though, be sure to check out The Sex God Method. It’s a complete guide to dirty talk, Dominance, and everything else you need to know about sex.
Imagine: you’ll no longer have to be continually guessing about whether or not what you’re doing in bed is a turn-on or not. You’ll be able to let go of the fear of doing something that will offend her. You will be able to becoming the caring and Dominant man that you were meant to be, and give her the wild screaming orgasms that you never thought you could.
Check it out at The Sex God Method Website.
