Bengal is a student of mine who took a 2-on-1 bootcamp with me in New York City a few weeks back. He was a great student, having a good skill base and experience with the Charisma Arts guys before the program. I was definitely impressed by what I saw from him during the program. He ran into a streak of bad luck at first, with a streak of blowouts that were totally uncharacteristic of his skill level. He wasn’t fazed by it though, and ended up having some notable successes in field, including a solid set and # close with a hot Swedish girl. He writes his own blog, called Bengal’s Zen Pickup. It’s some solid stuff, and worth checking out. As a sample of his work, you can check out his latest post, Making Bold Moves, here:

My friend M made a great point about establishing social connections and hanging out with people in general. He said that when someone first invites you to a party, if you really want to start a friendship or hang with that person, that you’d better damn go the first or second time that they invite you. This is a form of social boldness, being pro-active in creating those relationships when you see opportunity arise. Jumping in the mix and always being in it. Otherwise things will fade quickly. The acquaintance making the invite to you is getting nothing in return for their energy investment. So true. It’s just the same with pickup. If it doesn’t get pushed along quickly into a leading and sexual frame by you, and you don’t show or imply your interest fairly soon, it can take forever, drag out or just drop away and she’s never to be seen or heard from again. I’ve experienced this plenty in the last eight months for sure. I think that seeing the girl a bunch until sexual connection is established is key, otherwise you’re just another drifting dandelion seed in the wind to her.I’ve been opening with lots of situational openers lately and it has been great. It’s a very natural feeling. I’m also practicing lots of non-verbal fundamentals like applying social pressure by holding still and expecting answers with strong body language. Not only with women during a pickup but with people in general. I’m looking into her eyes intensely when she’s speaking and giving bigger, warmer smiles. Oh and I can’t forget about sexual state projection, which is taking a few seconds to think about fucking her while you’re looking deep into her eyes as she is speaking. I’ve also been practicing actively listening for powerful threads and rewarding heavily when I find something unique in her. I find that rewarding in itself is a rewarding experience. Funny that! I’m finally feeling that pickup is a part of me and not some separate thing. I am also looking forward to doing some directs again in the day, which I haven’t done in a week or so.In the past, I’ve tended to be fairly aloof about women even though I’ve done well. I think this works because it shows carelessness towards the outcome, her reactions and also a sense of strength on a path, with a vision. But it also can be too passive of an approach. Moves still must be made. I used to play aloof through social circles until the girl is so attracted that they can’t stand it and they are chasing me. Although it can and has worked, it is a limited method. Now, of course, I am much more aggressive, even though that old coherence of aloofness is still around and pops up sometimes. It is useful but only at certain times. It has to be used effectively. Perhaps I’ll post on that when I get better at integrating it into my game in a controlled way, not in the way I used to do it.So lately I’ve been having a point coming up about being more aggressive and bold during the mid-game portion of the pickup. Being more aggressive in leading and asking for more compliance from her is something I can clearly see as a barrier to moving things along more quickly. More leading and compliance (compliance is making her work for it) helps to solidify the connection more, both personally and sexually. I’ve actually missed a few number closes lately that I knew would be solid, because I’ve been focusing so much on genuine interest and rewarding correctly, along with having some silly fear come up about not having enough time. But just as Spirtfingers from TheApproach has posted in The Natural Game Compendium (see Sex God Method link on the right), time is irrelevant to pickup. I’m starting to see that. If you have solid VAC (Value-Attainability-Compliance) I think that getting a solid number is a no-brainer. I can see it so clearly that I know the next jump in my game will be here in leading and being more bold. So eventually this all feels just like flossing my teeth. Now if I could only get that feeling with singing as fast as it’s coming for pickup! Soon enough I will.The point I’m making here is to be more aggressive and bold in taking action now, rather than over-analyzing in that moment and then eventually getting lazy and never doing it. Not only do you lose the action itself, but you lose your power in delivering it because you are no longer aligned the strength of your body, emotional and cognitive congruence. Translation: you just ain’t feeling it the same way no mo’! It becomes mechanical and distant effort, which can work but not nearly as powerfully. And this picks up the pace of the pickup as well. The lack of engagement and congruence in the present moment leads to half-assed effort and shady results. You will get some results, but you won’t get as many and the connection won’t be as solid. Although I do believe that there are scientific concepts that backup why pickup and social interactions work the way that they do, primarily pickup is an expressive art, and better handled in a non-linear way. I’m all about efficiency man.Some ways to be more aggressive in action:
Screening faster
Rewarding more
Kinoing more
Going for the SOI when you feel it
Always going for the instadate anytime you have time
Setting up the Day 2 on the spot if instadate won’t work
Going for the number-close as an afterthought
Going for the kiss early on every day 2
Going for sex when in proper isolation, no matter what.
Going for Dominance in the bedroom right away.

The next phase of my development is simply to be more aggressive and bold in taking more risks, and going for it sooner and faster. Efficient.

Check out the rest of Bengal’s posts at Bengal’s Zen Pickup.