QUESTION FROM A READER:

Dan,

I’m a huge fan of your blog, and I’m excited to see that you’re getting your book published. I just bought my copy, and from skimming through it I’ve already picked up some great stuff.

Anyways, I have a question on sex that I was wondering if you could include on there.

I’ve read a lot of sex manuals out there and I’m particularly curious about introducing “fantasies” into your sex life. I’ve never really acted out fantasies in bed before, so I’m curious as to exactly how it’s done. Most of the other sex products I’ve read are hypnosis-based, so they recommend hypnotizing your girl to get her into the fantasy.

Unfortunately, I don’t really know hypnosis so I can’t do this. When I tried to hypnotize a girl one time with what I do know, I got an “Um, this is weird…what are you doing…”

So my question is…what is the best way to introduce a fantasy to a girl, and what are some good fantasies to play out?

Thank you,

P.L.

MY RESPONSE:

Fantasies are definitely a great way to take your sex life to the next level. You can literally give your woman an entirely new reality in bed, something she’s likely never experienced before. This adds lots of Variety to the bedroom experience, and greatly enhances sex.

Keep in mind though, that fantasies are an advanced method of creating sexual pleasure. You have to have all the basics down first — don’t try to enact fantasies if you can’t yet consistently provide high quality sex.

With that in mind, how do you introduce a fantasy? This is the point where most guys mess the fantasy up. They’ll try to introduce the fantasy in a non-sexual setting, like when they’re eating dinner. They’ll say “So honey…I was wondering, could we act out this fantasy together where I pretend to rape you?”

Doing this is absolutely the wrong way to introduce a fantasy. It gets her thinking logically about it, which disrupts her Immersion (Immersion is her ability to be totally in the moment mentally, and not have any distracting thoughts or fears).

Because you introduced the fantasy in a non-sexual setting, she’ll now start thinking and worrying about it. Consciously or subconsciously, she’ll think “what if he thinks I’m a slut and loses respect for me if I do this with him? Am I a slut if I do this with him?” Even if she agrees to the fantasy (which is unlikely), these distracting thoughts will pull her out of the moment during the fantasy. The fantasy will seem stilted, and fall flat on its face.

Worse still, some guys use pseudo-science “hypnosis” techniques that they learned in a weekend seminar to convince their girls to enact fantasies with them. While hypnosis can work in the hands of a qualified psychiatric professional, the variety of hypnosis hawked on the internet for $19.99 is useless, and will just make you look like a New Age weirdo.

What then, is the right way to introduce fantasies?

The right way to introduce fantasies is to get her aroused and then simply start talking in the language of the fantasy.

For example, if I wanted to bring one of my girlfriends into the virginity fantasy, I would first get her aroused by foreplay (fingering her, eating her out, etc.) When she was aroused and on the brink of an orgasm, I would then say “This pussy is really tight…this must be your first time.”

When she is this aroused, she is not thinking logically and will not object to anything you say. Inexperienced girls are sometimes slow to catch on, but keep talking in the language of the fantasy and they’ll soon fall into it.

When you introduce the fantasy when she is extremely aroused, she doesn’t have a chance to think logically or get insecure about it. This ensures that she stays immersed in the fantasy so that it seems real to her.

What types of fantasies are good to act out? Those that appeal to a certain dimension of sexuality (Dominance, Emotion, or Immersion). In The Sex God Method, I give detailed descriptions of nine different fantasies, along with a real-life example of each. You’ll what girls fantasize that a guy would do for them in bed, and specific, detailed instructions on exactly how to introduce and enact each fantasy.

If you’ve never before enacted fantasies in bed, it’s time to take your sex life to the next level and give your girl what she’s always dreamed about. Buy the Sex God Method today, and you’ll be on your way to sexual mastery.

-Dan

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