How to Give Oral Sex to a Woman

QUESTION FROM A READER:

Dear Dan,

I stumbled across your blog a few months ago. I’ve gotta say, I’m impressed. Your articles are amazing. They’re on a totally different level than most of the other crap out there.

I’ve read all the newsletters so far and they’ve blown me away. One thing that I’d like you to address is how to go down on a lady. I’ve always been a little confused about this and I’d appreciate your advice a lot.

Thanks,

J.R.

MY RESPONSE:

Thanks for the email. Oral sex is something a lot of guys are confused about, so don’t feel like you’re alone.

There are three types of guys that are bad at oral sex - the Squeamish Guy, the Oral Bulldozer, and the Inexperienced Guy.

Let’s cover their problems, and how to solve them.

THE SQUEAMISH GUY

As an enthusiastic pussy-eater, I’m amazed at how many guys are reluctant to go down on a girl. They have all manner of excuses, the lamest and most common being “I don’t need to — I’m good with my fingers.”

However, fingers can never replace oral sex. Here’s why:

Oral sex is physically better for a woman than fingering. Your fingers are hard, dry, and chafing. Your mouth, by contrast, is warm and moist.

Much more importantly, oral sex is psychologically better. The intimacy of your face in between her legs is a huge turn on for her. Compared to this, foreplay consisting only of probing fingers can seem platonic and impersonal.

This isn’t to say that fingering a girl isn’t exciting to her. But, oral sex is something that every guy should learn and something that fingering can never replace.

Now, with that said…the worst pussy-eaters are those that go downon a girl reluctantly with an attitude of distaste. Think of how much of a turn-off it would be if you came in a girl’s mouth, then she spat it out with disgust and rinsed her mouth out with Listerine. Then, think of how much of a turn on enthusiastic swallowing is. This is the difference to a girl between a man who’s reluctant to go down on her, and one who loves to eat her out.

Sex is a gloriously messy activity, and you should relish in the feel and taste of her naked body. If you find yourself psychologically turned off by the idea of going down on a woman, this is a limiting belief that you should work to overcome.

On the other hand, if you find that you’re physically turned off by something, most commonly smell or taste, these are problems that can be solved. Let her know what’s holding you back, and most of the time she’ll hurry to correct the problem.

Do it artfully though - make a pretense of the problem being you, not her. Telling her the problem directly will only make her embarrassed and insecure, but if you can allude to it without insulting her she’ll get the hint. “Baby, I’m a little squeamish…would you mind washing before I go down on you? I promise it’ll be worth it.” is a good way to say this. “Your pussy reeks” is not.

THE ORAL BULLDOZER

This guy is high on enthusiasm, but low on skill. He doesn’t understand that oral sex is an art, and you can’t just tongue-plow a girl into an orgasm with sheer force.

But wait…isn’t it more dominant to go down on a girl like a ravenous wolf? And isn’t Dominance one the Four Elements of the Sex God Method?

Not quite. Dominance is certainly a good thing, and essential for a woman’s sexual satisfaction. Bending a girl over your knee and spanking her is dominant. Ripping her clothes off is dominant. Telling her that her pussy belongs to you while she cums uncontrollably on your cock is dominant. Incompetent oral sex is not dominant - it is merely irritating.

Like the penis, the vagina must be handled gently until she is very aroused. When you first start going down on a woman, don’t just dive in. Tease her–breathe warmly on her pussy, and run your tongue over it lightly. Pretend that you’re going to put your entire mouth on it - then move away from her pussy altogether, and move to some other part of her body. Wait until she is aching to be eaten out before you gratify her.

When she’s ready, make the gratification sudden and intense. Penetrate her pussy with your tongue as deeply as it will go, and massage her from the inside. This will make her gasp with pleasure.

Now, this is the type of thing that feels good for a moment, but will not make her orgasm. After you’ve penetrated her with your tongue, move on to her clitoris. Periodically you can go back to penetrating her with your tongue, but as she gets closer and closer to orgasm you want to concentrate more and more on her clitoris.

USE PLENTY OF SALIVA. I can’t emphasize this enough. A dry tongue rasps, but a wet, well-lubricated tongue feels infinitely better. You also want to do this for psychological reason - lots of saliva gives her the sensation of being very wet, which she associates
with being very aroused. If you’re eating her out right, much of your face should be covered in various fluids when you’re done.

As she begins to get more and more aroused, you can begin to use more and more pressure with your tongue. She will begin moaning and bucking her hips in your face - lock your hands together on her stomach to hold her down, and continue to bring her towards orgasm. This is not the time to tease! Take her clit into your mouth and suck on it, or rub it vigorously with your tongue. Don’t stop until she orgasms - that means even if your mouth is tired, you pansy. Generally it will be very clear when she’s came. If you’re asking yourself “Did she cum?” then chances are she didn’t.

When she has come, don’t stop giving her oral right away. Keep your mouth on her pussy for a minute or so to allow her to come down. Remember, girls need much longer to come down than men, so allow her to enjoy all those pleasant after-sensations.

When she has come down, here’s something to try: when your face is still dripping from her orgasm, give her a deep French kiss. You’d be surprised - nearly all women love the taste of their own pussies. This is also a great time to begin intercourse - with her first orgasm, she’ll be primed for it and ready for more powerful vaginal orgasms.

THE INEXPERIENCED GUY

There is one more type of guy who’s not good at giving oral sex: the Inexperienced Guy. This is a guy who has the best intentions in the world, but just straight up does not know what he’s doing down there. He doesn’t bulldoze, but irritates equally as badly through clumsiness.

This is nobody’s fault, as men aren’t born knowing how to give oral sex. If you have nobody to guide you, it takes a lot of trial-and-error to learn.

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Have you ever been wanted to give great oral sex, but weren’t sure exactly how? Or, are you already giving good oral sex, but would like to learn ways to make it ever better?

If you are, check out The Sex God Method. It has many oral sex techniques, both psychological and physical, that will have your woman cumming in your mouth more quickly and powerfully than you thought possible. Learn how to tease a woman to create anticipation, how to talk dirty to her after she’s came, and specific physical techniques for stimulating a girl’s clitoris and vagina when you go down on her. Check out this testimonial, just in from a reader:

“The Sex God Method totally changed my perspective on sex. Before DEVI, I felt like I was just doing random things and hoping they worked. Now with DEVI [The Sex God Method], I feel like I know what I’m doing.

I especially liked the advice you gave for going down on a girl - my oral sex has improved a ton since I read that chapter. It’s a good feeling knowing that I can make any girl orgasm with my mouth.”

K.C., 31

If you’d like to learn more about oral sex and all other aspects of sex, check out the Sex God Method website for more information:

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