I recognize that if you are not getting ANY girls, you will need to do things other than sexual improvement to start getting laid. I responded to Nowhere and others in my post:

Sex Blitz 11: Building Sexual Momentum When You’re Not Getting Laid

Basically, it comes down to showing up consistently, overcoming your fears, having positive role models, and not ever turning down sex. I also think that even *knowing* about sex can help a lot — even if a guy can’t realize the full benefits from practicing his knowledge, just knowing can take away some of the fear of escalation which comes from not knowing what you are doing.

So while I recognize that there are other things you must do in order to start getting laid, I don’t think that knowing about sex is pointless even if you’re not having it. Of course, to get the most benefit out of sexual knowledge you have to put it into practice, but even knowing about it for a virgin or inexperienced guy can be a big confidence boost.

Where else, I don’t see how learning unrelated skills will improve your confidence with women. To be sure, learning how to become a good tap dancer will make you confident…that you are good tap dancer. It will not make you confident that women desire you sexually. I see this all the time from guys in my ju jitsu class…they are extremely confident in their ju jitsu, but not at all confident with women.

The point of this post is not to put down non-sexual hobbies, but to show people that they don’t affect your sexual confidence or how much you get laid. The only thing that helps this sexual confidence is proving to yourself that you are valuable sexually — that you are good in bed. Learning sexual skills and applying it will help your inner game massively if you are already having sex. If you are not having sex, learning sexual improvement in combination with the other things that I talk about in Sex Blitz 11 will still help you. They will be enough to start you getting laid, which in turn will lead to the real dramatic inner game improvements.

This is a good discussion — anybody else who has questions on this topic, feel free to add your two cents in the comments.

-Dan

I understand your logic behind sexual improvement being the biggest help possible, but I don’t know how you can possibly think that it targets the same kind of people Sovereign was aiming his post at. So a guy has terrible at game and thus very rarely gets laid. He asks you for advice and you’d tell him to improve sexually?? C’mon

Don’t get me wrong though, I think you have something really strong with the sexual improvement idea, but theres a certain point in someones game where it is applicable (I personally think you give perfect advice for me and where I am at in my game), but to someone new…it’s almost pointless, wouldn’t you say?

For me, having a cool life is just something to keep my state up. getting a good sex life is nowhere near easy and it takes many thousands of sets to get good, and I find I burn out real quick if the rest of my life otherwise is stagnating. I find I alternate between being busy at “life” and sarging a lot, and then I get too horny to concentrate, or too worn out and switch to the other one, but when I sometimes manage to both sarge enough and have the rest of my shit together is when I’m most happy and make the most progress.

of course doing cool things also is a nice DHV, but in the long term this factor’s probably more important