The point is to believe that women WANT to have sex with you. It’s better to sleep with an average girl who’s fully willing (not drunk) than a hot whore.

As for finding a way to “reverse the spiral”, I’m in a similar situation too . Dan is very right with point 2. When I was with Sebastian, I felt much better and had total faith in what he was telling me to do, which helped a lot.

Point 3 sounds very good too. When poker players are low on chips, they take risks and go “All In”. It’s their only chance to rebuild themselves. Luckily, our “self-esteem” chips can replenish with daily life.

Here’s another question for you: I find that when I don’t have sex for a while, I get nervous and have problems performing. This of course causes me to have less sex, which causes more problems with me performing, et cetra, et cetra. How do I get over this performance anxiety so that I can start having regular sex and get the “upward spiral” going?

I have a question about sexual momentum and #5 in particular. If just having sex, even with girls who are just average, helps you achieve a stronger sexual presence, it seems to follow that having sex with a hot prostitute would also do the trick (pun intended). At least this could help jump-start a newbie’s “upward spiral of sex.” What do you think?

Btw, I bought this and it is incredible. I now know why I lost women after the first or second time being with them. His book is solid gold.

It’s been 15 months since I’ve had sex and I’ll bet it really shows. The level of “no’s” that I get are outstanding. I use the term “no” as an all encompassing word.

I believe Dan is correct when he says have sex with average women. I tried this right before Christmas. We were in my house going at it and she said that she was surprised I was going for her (she was average looking and little chunky) and not some hot blond. That was it for me, I stopped, finished watching the movie and never talked to her again. I just couldn’t get into after she said that. I was like “you’re right”…oh and she had bad breathe so I was fighting that too.

Oh, one last thing that sorta sucks. Gay guys are coming on to me all the time. I always dress quite nicely when I go out, even if it’s just down the street to the grocery store. Nothing against gay guys, that just ain’t my cup of tea. Hell, looking at this way, it’s easier to pick up guys than girls and there are fewer of them! ha haha

Enough ranting about stupid stuff.

Dan’s product is golden and nobody is going to go wrong getting it. Do yourself a favor and spend the money you would spend on a date on his book. He gives plenty of examples. The thing I thought of while I was reading through it is that one must break out of a comfort zone while the act is taking place. I suspect most guys (Dan, correct me if I’m wrong) figured out one way to do things and pretty much do it that way all the time. They have a comfort zone and aren’t aware of doing things differently (or don’t have the drive or the courage). Probably part of human psychology.

Jim

Just reading your book made me feel a TON more confident though. It’s like now I know that I can give her what she wants if it goes all the way. I lost my virginity a week ago by doing exactly as you say…learning sexual skills and forcing myself to do it. Thanks!

I can attest to #6. I learnt some really good sexual techniques from some friends and it had a psychological effect on me. I felt like I was in that top 1 percentile of guys who just could blow a woman’s mind.
I felt like I could give a girl the best sex ever even though I was inexperienced. I didn’t even learn from this book and its a lot more comprehensive.