I just discovered Dirty Filthy Princess’s sex blog, and I’ve gotta say it’s great. Especially for guys who are just starting to learn how to become good in bed, her blog provides a lot of great insights into how women really think about sex.

One of the most common issues among sexual novices is that it is hard for them to realize that women want sex even *more* than they do. This is because with no experience giving women bed-shaking orgasms, they aren’t familiar with how ravenous women are for more sex once you learn to give them what they want.

Believing that women deeply desire and need sex is even more difficult for these guys because women are conditioned not to talk about their desire. But as any guy who has learned how to give a woman what she really wants in bed will attest, the typical female libido is incredibly powerful. And there are some superstars out there that will blow you away even more than this.
Just as a healthy man needs sexual satisfaction to feel complete and happy, a healthy woman also does. A lot of the times, if your woman is sexually deprived it can cause a lot of relationship problems. She will start to feel moody, and invent problems to justify her moodiness. It’s a rare girl that is conscious that the root cause of her moodiness is a lack of sexual satisfaction, and a rarer one who will have the courage to actually tell you this.

So, if your woman seems to be in a funk for no reason…think about your sex life. Have you had really satisfying sex lately? If not…that is probably the problem. Give her great sex, the kind that makes you feel relaxed and happy for days afterwards, and her bad mood will probably go away.

Check out this entry from Dirty Filthy Princess to see what I mean:

It was nobody’s fault.

Between looking at houses, working different shifts, deadline pressure at work and one or other of us getting sick, there just wasn’t any time or strength for sex. For about five days.

Apparently, that’s my limit. I’d started feeling weird the night before. I kept asking husband if there was something wrong. Though he said no and there really wasn’t any concrete reason for my concern, I still felt funny. I was inventing symptoms to a problem that wasn’t there.

“I feel like there’s a barrier between us,” I said.

It wasn’t until later when I realized that I’d felt that way before. Though rare, it had happened when we hadn’t had sex for several days - maybe five.

Apparently, I just need that physical connection to feel OK. Without it, I start feeling clingy and inventing problems.

Fortunately, we both had a couple days off to reconnect. We woke up the next day with the whole day stretching ahead of us, plenty of time to cuddle, talk, veg in front of the TV and have crazy monkey sex.

We enjoyed some much needed lazy time in the bed, taking our time waking up. Then we stumbled out to the couch for some more laziness. Still no sex yet, but I was enjoying the day knowing it was coming.

Then his brother called.

Husband put the phone down to consult me. “Honey, Billybob* is wondering if we can meet him and his girlfriend and go out for a movie.”

My first thought was for the sex. I didn’t want to wait until after returning from the movie: it’s a long drive and I knew we’d be tired after a long day. What if we were so tired the sex got pushed off until tomorrow?

I started to cry.

Read the full entry on Dirty Filthy Princess’s blog.