QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hey man

I’m happy to tell you that I’ve been very slutty recently, and your advice and general approach of a sex first mindset has been instrumental for this, thanks a lot:). it’s been good times:)

Lately, with my FBs, the hotness of the sex seems to first increase gradually then take off. Like with one it was pretty standard and then I got more and more comfortable with her. Now it’s the whole package, dirty talk, emotional talk, spanking, handcuffs, public places, etc. etc. and it’s GREAT. But it took me a while to get there.

I have another FB for whom it’s like in the beginning with this chick. Like I fear if I talk dirty it’ll sound silly and she’ll make fun of it and ruin the mood or whatever. And it’s both psychological and physical, if I try something new I guess I get a bit worried and so my equipment doesn’t function as well.

There’s another FB coming by Tuesday who’s a recent chick and since I’m graduating it’ll probably be the last time with her and I want to make it memorable for the both of us, I really don’t want to hold back.

I guess it’s a problem of Immersion. I guess the tantras recommend meditation for that reason, but I wonder what you’d personally recommend to work on this.

Any suggestions??

(interestingly enough, taking ecstasy one night helped catapult the quality of the sex with that first chick not just for that night but permanently after that as well, but obviously that’s not a healthy long term strategy)

Thanks bro, your shit rocks
~Nowhere

Glad that you’ve been slutty

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As far as the situation with your girls, where the sex gradually becomes better and then takes off later on…this is actually pretty normal. It is easier for a girl to be comfortable and Immersed with you if she is with you for longer. As you become more sexually proficient, you’ll be able to do stuff like dirty talk, emotional talk, etc. earlier and earlier. But especially at first, don’t worry if it takes a while to work all this stuff in. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and a great sexual relationship isn’t built in one night.

Also — I would stop referring to your girls as “fuck buddies” or “FBs,” as that implies a platonic, “friends-with-benefits” type of sexual relationship. Of course, you know that Emotion is very important for a girl’s sexual satisfaction, so it is better to refer to your girls as “girlfriends” even if you have more than one.

Now, let’s talk about this new girl that you’re having some anxiety about trying spanking, public places, and the other stuff I reccomend in my book on. One thing that will help you get over this anxiety is thinking about how well it worked in the past. Think about the look on your other girl’s face when she came on your cock over and over again while you talked dirty to her and told her how strongly you felt for her. When you think about that, the anxiety that you’re feeling with this new girl just seems…ridiculous.

However, anxiety like you are feeling stems from deep-rooted bad social programming. While thinking about how much the other girl loved it when you rocked her world in bed will doubtless reduce the anxiety, it will take a little longer for the anxiety to go away altogether.

The best way to eliminate the anxiety in the long term is to push your limits with this new girl a little at a time when she is very aroused. As I’ve stated in my book, when a woman is extremely turned on she is not thinking logically. No matter what bad social programming she has against it, she will respond to Dominance, Emotion, etc. if she is turned on enough.

So — get this girl super turned on, until she’s on the brink of an orgasm. When she’s almost there, do one small thing that you’re having some anxiety about doing. For example, you could spank her, or do some light dirty talk like telling her to cum for you. See how positively she responds to that, and that will give you confidence to try even more the next time she is really turned on.

And, the good thing about doing this is that once you’ve done this when your girl is very turned on, you can gradually start to do it earlier and earlier in the sexual encounter. For example, if you spanked her just before she came and she loved it, you could then start spanking her earlier and earlier during intercourse. Eventually, you will be able to spank her very early in foreplay, before you have even touched her sexually at all. This gradual escalation has the double effect of making her progressively more comfortable with expressing herself with you sexually, and of making you more confident in what you are doing.

Finally — let’s talk about the girl who you are going to be having sex with for the last time. Here is what I would do to make it memorable for her:

In addition to your usual dirty talk, also make sure to talk emotionally to her about how this is the last time you’ll ever be having sex with her. Tell her “I love being inside you so much…I can’t believe I’ll never be inside you again.” As you say “I’ll never be inside you again,” pull your cock out of her so she feels the sensation of being empty.

This empty feeling will make her want her cock inside you even more. Tease her by leaving it outside her for a second, then give her the gratification of sinking it back in. Repeat this multiple times, each time making the emotional talk more intense with withdrawing your cock from her when you say that you’ll never be with her again.

She’ll start to feel some negative Emotion, and may even start to cry. This is actually a good thing — this Emotion will make her orgasm amazing when it comes. When you sense that she is both emotionally charged and very turned on, stop teasing her by withdrawing your cock. Instead, start talking about how you have to enjoy this last experience together, this one perfect moment. Tell her “We have to enjoy this one perfect moment together…I want my baby to show me how much she cares about me.” Look into her eyes, and start fucking her hard and deep. Being so turned on, she’ll start to go crazy, and be ready to cum within minutes.

If you can pull just this off, I guarantee that the sexual experience will be great for her. But if you can pull this last part off, I guarantee it will be unforgettable:

Keep looking into her eyes, and use the techniques that I teach in the chapter “Simultaneous Orgasm” to bring the sexual encounter to a climax in one ultimate moment of emotion. When she shows the signs of being about to cum, press your legs together and accelerate your thrusting so as to time your orgasm to match her. Tell her, “cum for me baby.” When you both cum at the exact same moment, looking deep into each others eyes…it will be a moment that she will never forget.

Just as good as sex on ecstasy…just minus the brain damage

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