Shezz has a new tip up on the DJ boards about whether to call or text a girl. He reccomends texting her first the day after the pickup to set up the call and keep you fresh in her mind, and then calling her after.

Originally posted by The Shezzler on sosuave.net

Weird huh? You ever been in that situation, you’ve successfully sarged a stunning girl, youve kissed her, touched her in places that only months before you would never have even dreamed about…but when it comes to calling - theres an invisible wall preventing you from picking up that damn telephone!!! Ahhh forget it, ill send her a text instead - this may seem like a feasible option, but dependant on the amount of attraction that you created with the target - this may be the wrong move.

So the question still stands!!

Text or Call???

BOTH!!!!

Ive come up with a decent little method that will have your target with you on a day2 in 1 week! - Ok, so it dosnt sound great - but for me it was a breakthrough.

Ok, lets say that you numba close an HB10 in the clubs on a saturday night (now - this tip is designed primarily for clubbing girls - the last thing you want is for them to pigeonhole you as just one of those club guys - no no!)
So, its Saturday night, you sarge an HB10 and you successfully number close that night.

The next day - this incredible specimen is on your mind, you know she wont have forgot about you - but there is the chance that she may have placed you in that box - ‘Club Guy’, in which case you are probably a good drunken memory from the night before - but we dont want this!!!

Now - the phone call the next day would be a no no - it would come over as too needy and too desperate, a text message on the other hand is neither - it is simply a creative piece of wording to let her know that you ARE interested!! That you are not just a club guy!!

Send her a text message on the Sunday (the day after) just fluffing and vibing, mention a day2 within the text session and end it by telling her you’ll TRY* to call her during the week to confirm the times etc for the day2.

*Always make sure you say that you will TRY to call her - this way it leaves a mysterious edge!

From this point it is down to you, you can send her text messages leading up to the day that you call her - in this case Thursday (5 days later) just fluffing and using the DJ techniques that you have learnt.

When Thursday comes (5th day), call her at around 9:30pm that night (let me also add that your only texting should be after 8:00pm - so that you are on her mind when she goes to bed and it also reinstates that you are a busy guy throughout the day!) so again that you are on her mind before she goes to bed.

When you call her, ask her how her days been and what shes been up to - then move into a small funny storytelling routine, using any free information that she gave you when she sarged you and/or from the texts that you traded during the week. I also find it good to do some role playing/imagination building - oftentimes telling them that there is a man looking through my window/on my roof or that there is a Sugar Dragon in my garden - the girl cant see this so it drives there imagination wild - make it has funny has possible!!!

When you have her laughing and have built some more comfort, set up the day2 sharp and straight for saturday - confirm the place, activity, time etc and say your goodbyes.

Places for the date should be:

- Bowling
- Mall
- Ice Skating
- Hiking
- Biking
- Sledding - Make sure the date is action related and gives you a chance to have fun and vibe!!!

So remember - When that wall tells you not to pick up the phone/or does (the day after) - think about whether you should:

Call or Text!?!?!

BOTH!!!

Sarge On…

Here’s my reply:

I like this idea. The text keeps you fresh in her mind, and also gives her your number for when you call later. That way, she’ll be more likely to pick up.

I wouldn’t mention the day2 in the text though. I find that it is better to mention the day2 after you rebuild attraction and rapport with 30-25 minutes of phone game, unless the set was exceptionally solid on the initial sarge.

Also, I’d call a bit sooner. Text a day after and call the next day, or the day after that.

A good open-loop text message which Woodhaven taught me is

“I think I like you too much because”

She’ll inevitably text you back “because why?” This is good for two reasons. First, she’s putting work into the interaction by texting you back. Second, the fact that she’s asking you why presupposes that she wants you to like her.

Text her back “haha, you dork, you’re so nosy ” for girls who you didn’t establish a good connection with yet, or “haha, you’re so cute, I can’t tell you all my secrets yet ” for girls who you had good rapport with before and had solid attraction.

Keep in mind though, that all this just makes it more likely for her to pick up the phone. Once you get her on the phone, it’s all on you to build a fun conversation, re-qualify her and get the day2.